Any tips for how to keep your options open while dating? I don't want to be exclusive with any one person until we've decided on a lifelong commitment. In the meantime, I'd like to date around (NOT sleep around) and get to know lots of different people in order to make the best choice possible. Has anyone done this successfully? If so, I'd appreciate some practical tips. Thanks!|||Keeping your options open is a good thing. Just keep doing as you are, only thing I suggest, dont get caught up in finding someone that you think will "make a life long commitment" nothing is written in stone. You may find someone and they may be the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, but for them you may not be the one. So I think you really have to look at dating realistically because just because you may see it one way, the other person may not. Have fun, be respectful of those you are dating and the universe will (grant your wish) bring the individual that has an interest in being in your life and you in theirs|||It always sounds good on paper, but this is very hard to do. If you are a guy, this is possible, but will most likely result in breaking girls hearts or pissing them off...no matter how "up-front" you are about your intentions. Most chicks will say they are ok with it at first but will ultimately cling to you. Not all though, unfortunately the girls that are ok with it are most likely sleeping around anyways.
If you are a girl and prefer the company of possibly several men without being exclusive to anyone, you will be branded a slut by most of society weather you like it or not.
The best you can hope for is to be up-front about your intentions and cut your losses when you see things getting too serious, if that is what you truly want. Some people may get hurt in the process. There is no avoiding this.|||I had a boyfriend that tried to pull this on me after a year of dating... no go!
Sure, in the first few weeks or months of a relationship it is okay to keep your eye open, go on other dates, etc. as long as you are honest about your expectations when it comes to sexual monogamy with all people you date.
But if you ever want to get to a point where you are able to decide on a lifelong commitment you should be able to commit to one person as a boyfriend/girlfriend. This is a sign of maturity and a way of saying that a person is interesting/intriguing/important enough to you to keep you off the market. If you decide they are not right for you, go ahead and date around again!
If you want to casually date many people, again-- that's okay! Just go out with lots of different groups of friends, talk to lots of potential partners, and use dates as a time to get to know the person. Don't lead on people you're not interested in and be willing to commit to the people you are.
You'll be fine.. the right person is out there for you!|||I did and I am still single. It doesn't work. You date this person than you forget what your goals or standards are for dating. You should make out a list of your request and hand it to the person you're dating. Not many are looking for long term relationships. Not many like to be placed on a roster. This is sleazy and disrespectful. I know you indicated no sex but many out there are just looking for FWB. Just go with what you want cause no one can tell you how to date its up to your standards. Just be open and honest when you meet that person so this way you know if they're are in agreement with you.|||check this out man, When you're dating several girls at the same time keep it really cool with all of them. If you're gonna hang out with girl #1 on monday %26amp; wednesday %26amp; girl #2 on tuesday and thursday keep it that way. Make a schedule of girls tell them what days you're available to hang out %26amp; stuff. Don't ever tell any of them that you like them. If they start asking if you do like them just answer something like, "let's not talk about that, it spoils the excitment" if girl #2 asks what you're doing on wednesday just say "I'm gonna hang out with my friend". It's pretty simple man. be honest with everyone. If they ask where you two are going say something along the lines of "I'm not really sure, I think you're really cool %26amp;I still want to keep seeing you but we're both young %26amp; I don't think either of us is ready for a serious relationship."|||well hmm...I like to date, and stay single at times. I dont assume I can't date other people until its actually brought up and decided that we're exclusive. I think alot of people do that but it would be difficult to go from dating non-exclusively straight to marriage someday, that just doesn't really happen unless you're in a very non conventional relationship and yall decide to have an open marriage.|||All you have in this world are options....Dating and testing the waters are definitely options...and they are good ones. Uhm! Right off you just need to make them aware that you are friends. Don't verbally tell them that, because after you've dated so many and find that one and now you want to get serious he/she will back away and say now I just want to be friends i like that idea. So not telling u to lie, but just keep everyone a distance... a friend. treat everyone the same...until you get to know them and find the right one. Body language can show a person that you are just friends. A kiss on the cheek and not in the mouth...a quik hug hello nothing too close and drawn out! I have done this the way that I try to best explained and it worked out. I treated everyone the same and now I'm engaged! Just work on it but not too hard and try not to juggle so many at once. 2 or 3 is optional enough! Good luck! If i can be of further info let me know|||I usually like to be friends first; no pressure, no nothin'. I also talk to the guy on the phone first; if he sounds like a winner, we might meet for an "interview" at Starbucks or meet for lunch or something.
If I don't sense any compatibility over the phone or out on the "get to know you" lunch date, then I move on.|||Thats easy thats called the game of dating. As long as your not sleeping around you should be fine. Its fun too. I would be honest with the people your going out with and tell them what your doing. Like im not looking for anything serious right now, im looking to have some fun and date around. if they get mad then move on no big deal. or just keep it quiet and just dont be shady about it. Have fun|||I succeeded. I'm with an awesome man right now for half a year. I didnt date men all at the same. Take it slowly and know them very well before "making a selection." Otherwise, you may get pressured of who to pick. Don't let the guy know you want to keep your options open...so he can take you more seriously. You dont want to date a guy who's dating another girl, right?|||Its kind of hard in my opinion.
Im trying to do so now.
Just as long as the people you are seeing know you are seeing other people (dating; like it used to be defined as) it shouldnt be too bad.
It used to be as easy as just going on several dates and finding someone you click with but now emotions can get tied in.
Also its fun. You learn a lot about yourself and what your looking for in the process.|||just make sure your not considered anyones boyfriend. and well keep calling the girls you do like and make sure they know you arent their current partner, just a date. and make sure that the girls dont talk to each other often.|||keep everything casual, no deep conversations or giving alot of attention to one person.
as soon as someone thinks that they're getting alot of your attention and you start telling them meaningful things, they'll expect more
so just keep everything light|||It's very important to let your date know that you intend to date othr people. Not a lot of people are going to go for it but you have to be honest.|||Have fun going on 1-2 dates per person. Any more and it just isn't going to work if you don't want to commit to anything.|||I think being frank works best. "I'm not ready for a girlfriend right now, but I really want to spend time with you." Then just continue being the good guy you are.|||you need to be straight up with whom ever you go out with and tell them how you feel. If your not straight up in the beginning, you will possibly hurt some one.|||Tell good old fashioned honest lies.|||just ask them out, not on a real date though, make that clear, that might work|||Good luck..|||LOL i know right..!?!|||Yeah no that's called cheeting.
~S.F.C
Beast in 09
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